Today's the Day! Give1Save1Asia!

Today is the day that we've been telling you all about.

 

Today, Give1Save1Asia is highlighting our family for their weekly giving challenge.

 

I can't tell you how much I love this idea. 

 

So simple and pure.

 

We all have ONE DOLLAR that we can spare.

 

Last week's family that was highlighted on the GIVE1SAVE1AFRICA page received over $5000 in blessing!  It was so fun to see the totals climb for that sweet family.

 

 

Our mission this week is to raise funds toward the

$12,000

we need that goes to our Orphanage donations. (For those who are less familiar with the adoption process in China, despite the misleading name of this fee, it is, in fact, a requirement, not an option as the term "donation" might imply.)

 

Each orphanage (for us- 2) receives 35,000 Yuan (Chinese dollars) to care for the children that remain.  Honestly, it is the one fee in the entire process that you really don't mind paying.  So many orphanages are not well funded and it is nice to know that this money is going directly to the care of precious children.

 

The orphanage donation is not all we still need, but it is the next hurdle to cross and we are being deliberate in keeping our eyes focused on the "little goals" vs. the enormous amount that remains.

 

God has been so faithful to our family over the past two years and we are peacefully awaiting the provision that He has planned for our boys' journey home.

Cooper, age 9, waiting...



Connor, age 13, waiting...

Our three sons, waiting for their newest brothers...

 

Thank you for sharing this opportunity with everyone you know.  Let's have fun this week and it is our desire that you would enjoy this so much that you and your family would choose to bless a family each and every week this year with your dollar!

 

Much love,

Tom and Angie

 



We're having a baby...

...a bloggy baby, that is!

 

Colin, our oldest, has asked on and off for almost a year now, how he can help other kids who are either newly adopted, or considering adoption.

 

I loved his heart and his desire to help encourage others, but couldn't think of what that would look like, practically speaking.

 

Over the last year, he has joined me at airport homecomings, skyped with newly adopted kids while they were still in China, translated letters for waiting families...

 

While all of these were great things, I could tell he didn't think it was enough.

 

Most of his ideas were shot down because they would have compromised his safety...

 

things like,

sharing his QQ address with every orphanage in China... (seriously, that's what he asked for...)

 

After many months of asking how he could help, we finally settled on this...

 

Colin has started a blog.

 

That's right!  My baby is blogging!

 

He hopes to share some of his experiences and encourage those who might be unsure about being adopted as well as those who might be considering adopting an older child.

 

How many times have you adoptive parents looked at your kids and wondered what in the world they were thinking?

 

Or perhaps you feel God might be leading you to adopt an older child, but you just weren't sure you were ready, or wondered if they even really WANT to be adopted?

 

Well, I don't know that Colin's posts will have answers, per se, and I don't want to put any pressure on him, but his willingness to share his thoughts is a serious sign of his own growth and I am very proud of him!

 

It seems like just yesterday that he wouldn't choose a shirt to wear, or tell me where he wanted to eat, or give an opinion on ANYTHING!  Click here to take a look back on one post that will give you an idea of just how far he's come this year...

 

I hope you will all check out his post, leave a comment of encouragement, and even "follow" his blog.  It will make his day.  More importantly, it will give many parents a glimpse into the world of the adopted teen, even me! :-)

 

Read his first post HERE ...

 

www.lifeasanadoptedteen.blogspot.com

God Bless,

Angie

 



Nesting for two more Chicks!

Happy New Year everyone!

 

Now that we are officially into 2013, I am working hard to get the family, and the house, ready for our two new chicks!

 

Yes, that's right, the nesting is in full force!

 

With a small, three bedroom house, it takes a bit of creativity to welcome our newest sons into the fold.

 

It also takes some organization.

 

So, I decided to share this journey as we grow into what most would officially call a "large family".

 

Tonight's post will share one small project, but as we finish others, I will share those too.

 

This is where my new best friend comes in...

 

That's right!

 

PINTEREST!

 

I recently discovered pinterest and while I don't have much extra time on my hands these days for browsing the thousands of cool ideas that others are sharing, I have seen a couple cool things that I have tried and am excited about.

 

 

With our family about to grow again, one of my pet peeves is about to get, potentially, much worse.

 

 

That's when I saw it!

The solution to the ever growing pile of dishes!

Specfically, CUPS!

 

 

With three thirsty boys underfoot, it is not uncommon for us to go through 20 cups a day or more. 

 

Let the insanity end!

 

That's when I saw it. 

The solution to our

cup-hoarding,

water-wasting,

sink-filling,

cup problem!

 

So, what is this magic pet-peeve solving tool?

This little baby is going to bring peace and contentment to our home.

 

Ok, maybe it is not going to promise world peace, but it will go a long way to

de-clutter our counters and that makes this mama very happy!

 

This was not difficult, as any one of my friends who know me will atest.  I am not (let me say it again- N.O.T.) Martha Stewart.

 

In fact, I am not domestically gifted in any way.

(This is why God gifted me with TOM!)

 

So, when I say this was easy, believe it.

 

I started with some cheap white bath tiles from Lowes. ($.81/each).

 

Then, I cut out some pretty scrapbook paper and with a little Rubber Cement, glued the paper to the tiles.

 

Next was the part of the process where we label each tile so that the family members know where to keep and find THEIR cups.

 

The original poster from Pinterest used the first initial of each family member to label hers.

Not a great idea for a family full of Cs!

 

So, we went with the full monogram...

Using Black stickers (half-price at Michaels), we marked each tile.

 

Next step?

A little Modge-Podge to set it all and protect from water damage.

 

Then, Tom cut a plain board long enough to accommodate all these tiles people!

 

A little black paint, some poly on top for extra protection and shazam!

 

 

The final touch?

A couple of cabinet door handles and we are finished.

 

Now, hopefully, this...

 

Will become this:

 

It's the little things!

 



Give 1 Save 1 ASIA Update

Tonight is the start of the new year and along with that comes some amazing families being featured on

Give 1 Save 1 Asia's blog!

 

Check out family #1 here.

 

Would you consider donating?

I JUST DID!

 

All it takes to bless this family who is trusting God for their child's future is

ONE DOLLAR!

 

Please consider if this might be an opportunity for your family to bless others each week in

2013.

 

I will let you all know when our family is featured later this week (1/6), but in the meantime, would you please take a quick moment to shoot one dollar (or more, if you feel led) to the McKnights?

 

Thanks Bloggy friends!

 

Angie

 



What can a dollar do?

 

Friends, I am excited to tell you about two really amazing things that have happened in our adoption/fundraising journey over the past two weeks!

 

God has been confirming for us over and over again that He will provide all we need. 

Not only have we gotten several very generous donations over the past two weeks, we also heard from a local Orphan Care ministry that we were approved for a $1000 matching grant during the month of January!

Thanks to Journey Together Ministries, we now have the opportunity to match all donations received during the month of January up to $1000!  We are so excited about this blessing.

What makes the timing so wonderful is that just days before getting this news, we heard from
GIVE1SAVE1ASIA
that we were accepted as a featured family!

Guess when? 
YES!
January!
(January 6th, the be exact!)

So, whatever we raise through this effort, JTM will MATCH the first $1000!

Is our God amazing or what?

Ok, so let me explain what this is.

GIVE1SAVE1 is really a very simple concept.

Each week, this blogger will promote one family in need of financial blessing who is adopting from ASIA.

The week of January 6th will be
The RYLANDS family! :-)

The featured family must have a video to share.
(Got that one COVERED!)

Then they ask the reader one simple thing.

Give
ONE DOLLAR

Who among us can't spare ONE dollar?

I love this idea SO MUCH that our family has decided to make this a new ministry habit.

Each week, we will log on and donate our $1 to the family of the week.

I love knowing that we can discipline ourselves to the habit of giving each week. 

I hope to give more.
Lots more.
Once we are done adopting and in a season where we can do so. 
But, as a first step, in addition to our tithe, we will give regularly to a family that will truly be blessed.

I would encourage all of you to consider this as a ministry opportunity for your family as well.  Wouldn't this be a great idea for your children too?  How about your Bible Study group or Sunday school class?

Is there a small chore around the house that the kids could do each week to earn their $1 to give?  How fun would it be to log on each week and watch the video of that week's featured family and know that you were a part of their adoption story?  A very real part of bringing a child home?

So, we will post again before the launch date and provide some more context and details, but for now, check it out and if you feel led, please share about this opportunity. 

 

Christmas traditions- Rylands style!

I have always been a fan of Christmas. 

 

I can't say that it's my favorite holiday, as that honor is reserved for Easter, but it is a close second.

 

The reasons may be obvious to some, but the older I get, the more I realize that there is no meaning, no purpose, no value to anything in this life without the coming, living, and dying of the Savior. 

 

So, while these two "religious" holidays have always been enjoyable to me, even as a child, they are now treasures that I want to cherish and share with my children.

 

I personally believe that "tradition" is important.  In most all contexts, especially family.  It is one of the things that makes "family" unique to other social settings or living arrangements.

 

With each passing month that our sons, Colin and Cameron, are in our home, I learn more and more how significant "traditions" can be.

 

Our boys brought with them Chinese traditions and I have tried to educate myself on those traditions, holidays and habits so that I can discern which ones can/should become a part of our family story here in the states.

 

This helps me to connect with the boys in some small way that makes up for, as much as we ever can, missing all those years of their lives.  It also, I believe, allows them to reconcile their previous "identity" with their new one as a Rylands, a son and brother. 

 

How often do we wrestle with our previous identity and attempt to reconcile it with (for those who are followers of Christ) our new identity in Him?  I sympathize a bit with my boys just realizing how challenging it can be when I have one foot in this world and another in the world to come.  Do you ever have those days when you forget where you truly belong and feel as if you don't know who you really are? 

 

In God's loving kindness, He gifted to each of us the Holy Spirit to guide and comfort us and to redirect us back to the Cross where our true identity is found.

 

For our adopted children, we celebrate that which is good from both cultures and begin to forge new traditions that are ones they can identify within their family. 

 

Not all of these efforts are monumental or particularly genius, but rather little things that continue to engrave their presence as Rylands into the fabric of our family. 

 

So we start with the Christmas tree.

 

Spending time together decorating the tree, talking about those ornaments that carry some special significance, sharing old family stories so that they will become part of the tapestry our older sons will one day reflect upon.

Cameron said this was his favorite ornament!

 

We made sure that while many of our ornaments are remembrances from Tommy's early years,

 

 

that Colin, Cameron and now Connor and Cooper have a personal presence on the tree too.

 

 

 

 

 

Another Rylands family "tradition", added only 2 years ago, is the reading of an advent story each night during our regular devotion time. 

 

We light the advent candles for each week that approches Christmas and listen while Tom, a naturally gifted orator, reads the story to us with the inevitable cliff hanger each night.

 

This year has been especially nice since both boys can now understand the lion's share of what's being said, unlike last year.

 

Colin has gotten into the habit of squeezing in behind Tom's reading chair to get close and see the pages as he reads.

 

Cameron likes to sprawl down on the carpet in front of the tree

and Tommy snuggles up into the recliner with Mom.

This nightly reading is a time that all of us look forward to in this season of advent.  A time to listen to the adventures of those in our storybook and how they demonstrate the excitement of our old testament ancestors as they waited for the coming of the Messiah.

 

Each night after the reading is done, the boys take turns blowing out the candles and off to bed they go.

 

Today, I was able to add yet another piece to the Christmas puzzle as we start to integrate our sons, old and new, into the tapestry of Christmas.

 

One night, as I wondered aimlessly through the pages of pinterest, I found the prettiest Christmas stockings. 

 

It got me thinking how much I would love to have new, matching stockings for all the boys.

 

Clearly, this was not a need. 

It was definitely a want.

  And, more than likely, only a want of mine, as I do live in a house full of boys, afterall!

 

Be that as it may, I daydreamed about having these beautiful Christmas stockings hung by the fireplace signifying that each one of our five boys "belonged" with us and had a special place.

 

Despite the fact that we are still fundraising and are so very far from our goal, and knowing that I could not even think of splurging on something so frivilous at this time, I asked some folks where they get their stockings, just to see what was out there and maybe hoping that some crazy amazing deal was lurking around the corner that would make this justifiable.

 (Yeah, I know YOU'VE never done that!)

 

Well, once again, God demonstrated that He cares about the desires of our hearts and even those things that are truly just "wants". 

 

Not long after I posted about Christmas stockings, an old friend from out of state, a second mama, once upon a time, offers to sew some stockings for my boys!

 

I was thrilled!  She even took the picture I had, the one from pinterest, and set out making these matching stockings for my clan, as a gift, no less!

 

 

 

It is always amazing to see God provide for our needs, but somedays, it is just so cool when he provides for those things that we don't need, those things that just make us happy!

 

But, our stocking story doesn't end there, oh no!

 

Realizing that we were going to get these cool stockings at no cost, I thought to myself...

 

Self?  Maybe, you could afford to get them embroidered with each boys' name?

 

Knowing a great friend of mine who does embroidery, I asked her if this was something she had the time to take on so close to Christmas.

 

Not only did she say yes, but once again, she offered this as a GIFT! 

 

My Christmas daydream of new stockings for the boys was actually going to materialize and without spending a dime!

 

This morning at church I finally got to see the finished product!  To say that I was pleased was a total understatement!

Not only did she get the boys' names on them, but their birth province too!

 

Just look at these!  They are so great looking!

 

Colin, born in Liaoning Province

Connor, born in Chongqing Province

Cameron, born in Hubei Province

Cooper, born in Hunan Province

Tommy, born in South Carolina, USA

 

 

I loved being able to hang these stockings today! Even though Connor and Cooper can not yet come home to us, and despite missing them even more at Christmas time, it was comforting to see their names, hanging at the fireplace along with our other boys. 

 

I am so thankful for this Christmas gift and I can't wait for the boys to see that they are already a part of us!

 

 

So even though we aren't all together for Christmas this year, we rejoice in the hope that comes from remembering the birth of Christ and as we yearn for our sons to be home, it makes me mindful that this sacrifice is nothing compared to the sacrifice made by our Heavenly Father to send his son away to pay a price that would allow each of us to live in spiritual purity before the Father.  Purity that is so undeserved, making his grace that much sweeter!

 

Merry Christmas all!

The Rylands

 

Looking for Families!

Hey bloggy friends!

 

I need a favor.

 

Will you help me spread the word about a special need?

 

One of the many responsibilities that I have at Lifeline, and one that is especially important to me, is helping our social work assistance team in special cases.

 

As a mom who has adopted older children, I know that adoption parenting is different.

 

Different, and often very difficult.

 

These special children come to you with lots of history.  History that you were not privileged to shape.  History that is hard.  History that is not easily overcome.

 

It takes lots of intentional education, patience, grace, support, love and did I say... patience?

 

In most cases, given sufficient time to adjust, these adoptions turn into happy well adjusted families.

 

However, at times, even with ALL OF THIS, even with exceptional parents with the highest and most dedicated intentions, something doesn't fit.

 

There are situations where it is necessary to remove the child and find them a new family. A new home that is better equipped to meet their unique needs.

 

Thank the Lord this is not a common occurence, but when it does happen, it becomes necessary to find that child a new family.  A family who desires the challenge and feels called by God to pour into the life of a deserving child.

 

 

When Lifeline becomes aware of such a situation, we strive to help.

 

That's where you all come in!  My faithful Bloggy followers!

 

If you, or someone you know, feel called to parent children from a dissolved adoption situation, please have them contact me at my work email address:

angie.rylands@lifelinechild.org

 

We are developing a pool of potential Christian families who want to be considered as possible adoptive families.  The children in question are often older.

 

We know that these kids are often in need of something that for whatever reason, their current family is unable to offer them and so we work diligently to secure a family that can meet their needs and help them to develop into healthy, happy and productive citizens.

 

I appreciate your help!

 

Blessings,

Angie

 



Christmas for Connor & Cooper

Well, the day has finally arrived!

That's right! 

We have L.O.A!

LOA stands for
Letter of Acceptance!
 

Tom and I signing the boys' LOAs!

 

It is the 

B.YOU.T.FUL

piece of paper that says that our new boys CAN BE RYLANDS!

While it isn't the last step in this crazy process, it is one of the most important and represents the official approval from their country for us to be their parents.

So, while we are whirling with excitement about being so close to getting our boys, we are also aware of the fact that the Lord has not yet provided all the needed funds.

Now, we've done a lot of work getting to this point.  To date, we've raised a little over $15,000 through donations and  fundraisers of all kinds.

And just as I was sensing the Lord asking us to slow down and breathe, our LOA comes in! 

So, as I pray about what steps He would have us take next, He brought to mind the ways in which He has provided for our adoption needs in the past. 
(Without our help)

He also reminded me of all the ways he has blessed our family when we've had the opportunity to give to others who are serving orphans.

 

So here we are. 

LOA in hand. 

A large amount of money still needed

(to cover the $12,000 in orphanage donations, travel and in country legal fees),

 and a strong sense that God is ready to take the reins and get us to the finish line.

I don't know exactly what this will look like. I don't know who God will work through or how He will provide.

But, as I told Colin a couple months ago...

HE WILL PROVIDE!

I know that He will call those whom He wants to walk alongside us.

He will nudge those who He wants to give.

So we are going to take an intentional break from the madness of the last 6 months and agree together that the Lord will bring us the rest of the way.

So, if you feel that you'd like to play a part in Connor and Cooper's story, we'd be honored if you'd join us in praying and giving as the Lord leads.

Since it is 12-12-12 today, 
and we are bringing home TWO boys this time...

anyone seeing double?

How about a 
$20/20 CAMPAIGN?

Here's our goal

20 days for Cooper
20 days for Connor
$20 gifts to raise
$20,000!

It's a God-sized goal to be sure, but I am learning to expect big things from God and from His people!

Let's see what blessing God could pour out on behalf of these precious boys with a $20 gift for Christmas.  Really, that's all we're asking.
$10 per boy to get them home!

Would you intentionally pray for our sons?
Would you share with those who you think might join us?
Would you give?

Donate Here

To donate directly to our adoption fund, tax-free, you can click on the far left corner of our blog and donate in any amount you choose or use the direct link above.  These funds will go to

 Journey Together Ministries

 and be directed to our account.  JTM does not take out administrative or processing fees, so 100% of what you give (minus the small convenience fee from the online processor) will be sent directly to Lifeline Children's Services and applied to our adoption fees.

Our little Artist!

Many of you already know that we have a talented artist in the family...

Much to our surprise, Cameron came to us with a special talent.

A talent that in my estimation required a real cultivation.  Surely, people aren't just "born with" an artistic talent, or are they?

Well, Cameron did say that they spent some time at his orphanage learning about art and I saw on my tour that they had some easels out in the common area for the kids to draw on.

I remember shortly after Cameron came home, I saw him sketching this picture free hand...

Shortly after this one, a few more came along...

Needless to say, I was impressed.  I have Z.E.R.O. talent in this arena. 

Wanna learn to play a wind instrument? 

I'm your gal.

Need a theory lesson? 

Got ya covered!

But Art? Sorry Charlie! Not my gift.

So, we began to realize that outside help was going to be necessary.

Thankfully, he has been blessed with some really talented teachers and most recently attended a two day art camp at school over the Thanksgiving break.

While I haven't seen all of his work from those two days (some things were secret projects for Christmas gifts), I can tell you that his work continues to show promise.

His first painting with textured paint- Tiger, Summer 2012.

Gift for Mom presented on Thanksgiving, 2012

Gorgeous Winter Scene

I posted these on facebook and a good friend suggested that we should make this winter scene into a card.

I liked the idea so much that this is exactly what we've done.

Cameron has asked before if he could paint something to sell so that he could help us raise the needed funds to get his two new brothers home. 

(How sweet is that??)

But, I told him that I was not ready to sell one of his paintings because they were too special to me.

So, when this suggestion was presented, it seemed like the perfect way for me to keep his art and share it! (Thanks, Paula!)

Here is a proof of the card.  

We are going to give them in sets of:

 10 for $12 and sets of 

24 for $25 donations.

*Please include $3 for shipping (set of 10) or $5.50 for a set of 24

 if you are not local.

Once folded, each card will measure 4.25"x5.5" and include an A2 envelope.

These will make wonderful Holiday cards but will also be useful anytime and any year since the inside is blank.

Everytime I look at one of his paintings it is a reminder to me that God redeems all things.  He took this little boy from a tough place and a rougher than desired start in life and gifted him with an amazing talent.  Then, he orchestrated circumstances in his life where he could express this gift and share it.

He is so excited to be an active part of this most recent adoption.  Somehow, I think it is helping him to heal a little and to turn something sad into something joyful for another. 

We would love it if you would help share about Cameron's Winter Card Sale and order some of these as gifts or to use for your own family.

Donations can be made to the side of our blog or via Journey Together Ministries if you desire a tax deduction for your gift.

The Rylands family hopes that each one of you have a Christmas season filled with blessings from the Father and that you take some time to slow down and recognize the redemption taking place in your own lives.  God is always at work!  We just have to slow down and take a close look.

Merry Christmas, May Jesus Christ be Praised!

Tom & Angie