Showing posts with label Cooper. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Cooper. Show all posts

Saturday, August 16, 2014

Summer Reading and Dating our children!


Back in early May, as school for the year was winding down, I asked each of our boys to sit with me to read. With the hectic pace of this past Spring, I had not been as diligent in getting the boys to work on their reading each day. 

Well, to say that I was disappointed in their progress would have been understating things a bit. Despite the fact that each had "done well" that year in school, there was very little progress in their reading.

So was born, 
"Mama's Summer Reading Boot Camp!"


Anyone who's adopted Internationally a child whose native language was anything other than English knows that reading mastery is no small task. There are challenges that linger and even years after coming home, reading can still be a major hurdle. 
I knew that it was going to take intense daily effort to see any lasting progress.

I also knew all too well that I would have 4 completely unwilling participants.

So, Tom and I consulted and decided that every morning before I went to work, I would sit the boys down and do a reading lesson. We went backward quite a ways from where we thought they had come, but it was worth it. 

So, back to the beginning of the 2nd grade curriculum we went.





So, it began. Every morning, I'd get out the white board, choose a few phonics rules or sound blends to cover and we would review them together and each boy would then spend at least 30 minutes each day working their way through the workbook.


Our Hooked on Phonics curriculum is broken up into two main units for 2nd grade.

Blue level and Green Level

Occasionally, someone would have a "reading buddy" to lounge around with!

Upon successful completion of each level, the boys earned a "date night" with either Mom or Dad. Not only did that serve as a small motivator, but it also allowed us the chance to spend some one on one time with each of our boys doing something that they liked. 


We read at the dining room table, we read in the office, we read in the cars, we read everywhere we could. 



Slowly but surely, progress was made. Before too long, each boy successfully completed a reading unit and had their first "date night". 

Cooper and Colin earned one at the same time, so Tom took Cooper to the movies and I went with Colin. But, beforehand, we treated each of the boys to a little frozen yogurt.

Another fun night was my date with Cooper and Tommy to the movies. 
We met Dad for an early dinner that evening before he went off to teach at the college and treated the kids to burgers at Steak & Shake.




After a yummy dinner, the two youngest boys and I went to see Earth to Echo.


as you can see, we had the place all to ourselves! I guess most folks don't go to 5PM movies on weeknights. 







We had a really fun night together without all those pesky "big boys". 

My most recent "date" was with my eldest son, Colin. My most reluctant "student". 
I will be forever baffled by how willing this child is to work his fingers to the bone, literally, to help someone in need, but how aggressively he fights when it comes to learning English.
He is a smart kid, but English is just hard, especially for someone who only started learning it at age 14.

This date night was dinner out, at his request.



We dined at Brixx Oven Baked Pizza.


Followed by a shake at Sonic.
Needless to say, neither of these food groups are common at our house lately, so these are rare treats for our boys!



As we embark on a new school year this week, I am pleased with the new-found progress that each of our boys has made this summer with their reading and hope that it will help them as they begin their 11th, 9th, 6th and 5th grade school years! 

Now that all 4 have finished the 2nd grade level, they have moved on to the Master Reader curriculum and will continue to work on this step by step in addition to their assigned school work. 



Hopefully, their ESL exams this year will show a substantial improvement.

Sunday, April 14, 2013

Doctors, Doctors & More Doctors

One of the first things that most adoptive families must tend to upon coming home is the string of doctors that are often needed to ensure the health of their new children.
 
For our kids, their physical needs have been fairly minor.  However, that does not negate the need for good medical and dental care when they come home.
 
While we were in China, Cooper told his brothers that he was allergic to shrimp and beef.  There was no easy way for us to confirm this in China, so we avoided those things in country.
 
Our first stop in the US?  The allergist!
We live on the east coast and shrimp and beef are common foods in our diet.
 
Cooper was a real trooper!
 
Cameron was a wonderful translator.  His Chinese has improved immensely since spending three weeks in China.



Foods on the left...

Spices on the right...
 
The end result?
 
No reaction to shrimp OR beef.
(Yeah!)
 
But, we did have a slight reaction to cayenne pepper, mustard seed, perch and flounder.
 
So, we will need to keep an eye on those foods/spices but so far, we don't have to restrict anything.
 
So, for dinner?
 
HAMBURGERS!

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Next we head to the International Adoption Clinic to see Dr. Summer and Dr. Larosa.

On April 3, we took Cooper for his lengthy visit.

They do a wonderful job there and get everything checked out at once saving multiple trips back and forth.

Cooper was checked out head to toe and had developmental, and Occupational Therapy tests run as well as the basic medical exam and blood tests.

Here he is showing Dr. Larosa how strong he is
 pushing his knee up against her hand.

Giggles all the time cause he is ticklish just like Cameron!

 

Colin was our translator.
Dr. Larosa said that she wishes she had him there everyday
because he is so good with kids.
 
Finally getting dressed...

His reward for being such a brave boy! DS! Cures what ails ya!

We also saw the pediatric urologist, the dentist and are waiting to see the orthopedist.

We have a good bit yet to learn about his Osteochondroma and how this may affect his life as he grows, but we are overjoyed to have this bundle of energy and laughter in our family!


 



Monday, March 25, 2013

Two more precious boys are HOME!

We are HOME!
 
So, I need to beg forgiveness for not posting very much while in China.
 
I have lots of excuses, so I thought I would list them for you... :-)
 
Cameron.
Connor.
Cooper.
 
Skyping Home.
 
Bonding.
 
Scheduled appointments.
 
Meeting new (or old, online) friends.
 
Occasionally assisting my great travel team from Lifeline.
 
Working.
 (Yes, I confess. I worked.  Not nearly as much as my wonderful new assistant and the team that backed me up while I was away, but none the less, I worked.)
You see, when God allows you to work in a ministry about which you are deeply and personally passionate, you just do it. It becomes a part of you.  As I was in China, living the early days with two amazing young boys, a part of my heart was with the Hong Kong and SC families that I serve. Their needs were never far from my thoughts, so as I was able, I did my best to coordinate things from afar! 
 
And last but not least...
 
FACEBOOK.
(my own personal photo album and excuse for not blogging...)
 
So, if you are NOT one of my many facebook friends, and want to be, send a friend request so you can see all the photos I posted over the past couple weeks.
 
All that said, I know that some of you here are NOT on facebook and one or two maybe even really DO live under the proverbial rock, so...
 
Here is a glimpse of our two newest sons home for the first time!
 
Cooper starting out on the long (L-O-N-G) flight home!

So grateful for the distraction of technology on a flight like this!
 
Here we are at the Charleston airport!
Midnight!
3/23/13
 
 

 


 

 
Showing the boys their new rooms...
 
Tom even had the beds turned down and ready for the boys to arrive.


 
 After a full night's sleep, the boys promptly went through the piles on the table and found the new Yo-yos and other small toys/books we brought home.  It was like Christmas morning around here!



 
 
We must take a break in the story here to represent the 5 hour "nap" I took this afternoon!
 
Once I woke up...correction...was woken up, it was almost time for dinner!
 
Colin grabbed the camera and starting clicking away.
 
 
Our first family dinner as a family of 7!

 
After dinner, we continued with the one goal of the day...LAUNDRY!
*Why exactly did I think it was a good idea to teach my new children to wear clean clothes everyday?????? #times5!
 
Cameron, my best clothes folder, was on "teacher duty" after dinner and showed Cooper how to fold the clothes.

 
 
For those of you who just gasped...and thought, "What?  Chores?  They just got home!" 
 
Breathe.
 
It's all good and I plan to blog on adoptive parenting and raising boys over the coming months, so stay tuned!
 
#Ireallydothisforalivinglife.
#Idon'tjustplayoneonTV!


Saturday, March 16, 2013

The Halleluia Chorus! Guangzhou at last!

We are so very grateful to be in our last city for this trip.
 
Guangzhou, China is the city where all American adoptive families process their child's US Visa and get permission to leave the country with their newly adopted child.
 
By comparison to most provinces and cities, Guangzhou is much more "comfortable". 
 
By comparison to our most recent province experience, it is..well- heavenly!
 
I could have sworn that as I walked into the Garden Hotel in Guangzhou
I heard someone singing the
Halleluia Chorus!
 
All the adoptive families who have been on this journey before know exactly what I mean.
It's a much more "western-friendly" city and cleaner and quieter than any province I've been in yet.
 
The staff is amazing and our in country Lifeline team is just outstanding!
 
The boys continue to do well together and are getting along very well. 
Here they are "representing" in the lobby:
 
 
For those who haven't been to the Garden before and may be traveling soon, it will not disappoint.
 
The rooms are well appointed
 (except there are no drawers???)
 and very clean.
 
We have what they call a "small suite" with one bedroom (2 twin beds) and a separate living room/work station.  It is quite nice and plenty of room for an extra cot which we have.
 
It is also so nice to be here with such nice families, including our great friends from down the street.
 
 
Today, we went to the new Medical building in GZ and the boys had their check ups for the US Visa.
 
They have changed the TB test procedures since our last visit and now all the children must have blood drawn.  What makes that worse for most parents is that they are not allowed in the room, so their kiddos are being stuck and they can't hold their hands.  I saw many a toddler come out of there screaming today.
 
My boys did ok, but certainly weren't thrilled.
 
It was so crowded and crazy in there that I really didn't take too many pictures.
 
Connor was the only child that had to get vaccinations because he is over 10.  Cooper made the cut by just a couple months, so other than the TB blood draw, he was left alone, but Connor had 3 shots and one oral vaccine to take.
 
Right before bed tonight he was rubbing his left arm and telling me that it hurt (with charades, of course, he doesn't have the words yet.) I am sure his arm will be sore for a day or two.  They were not particularly gentle in the administration of these shots.
 
This is how my boys passed the time while we waited...
 
Gotta love electronic babysitters on a trip like this!
 
Tomorrow, it is off to church and then our first day to wander and shop in the afternoon.  I am looking forward to hanging out a bit with the gang of families here this week.
 
Hoping to blog more this week, but keeping up with three boys everywhere we go has really worn me out! 
 
Please keep praying for safety, health and bonding!
 
 
 


Thursday, March 14, 2013

Changsha Orphanage Visit

Today was quite a day!

We went to the Civil Affairs office first to get
Cooper's official adoption certificate.
It was short and sweet, a little less formal than the one for Connor in Chongqing.
Afterwards, we were taken to the Orphanage where Cooper has lived.
It is on the 13th floor of a large highrise building.

We arrived upstairs where we saw a reception area

The staff had asked if I was willing to interview some children and try to find families for them
Of course, I was happy to agree.

I will work on a blog post for these children soon, but in the meantime, here are a few snapshots. Get ready, these kids were CUTE!



TOLD YOU!
 
After about an hour of interviewing and videotaping the children on their list, we saw Cooper's room.
 
Then once we were ready to leave, we were told that we were being invited to a special luncheon by the Director of the Changsha Civil Affairs Bureau.  He had called ahead to ensure that he was able to meet Cooper's family.
 
You see, our little rock star?  Apparently, quite a favorite in Changsha.  You should have seen the way everyone scurried about as soon as the Director's chauffered towncar came on the grounds.
 
We joined them for lunch and half expected a TV crew to come barreling in!
 
He presented Cooper with a special gift that was purchased by his wife, specifically for Cooper.
 
 
It was an officially certified jade necklace with his birth animal (sheep) engraved on it.
Not sure I am ever going to get it off his body!
 
Next, and much to my surprise, the Director presented a gift to me.
 
Apparently, it is from a famous and very old kiln in Changsha. 
 
It was very nice and thoughtful.
 
 
Then there was the feast...
 
 
This was just the starting line up...
 
The poor ladies in the kitchen were hoppin', let me tell ya! They worked so hard and the food was so good that I ran back there on the way out to say thank you!
 
We sat for well over an hour while folks around the table were talking and toasting, toasting and eating, and toasting some more.  I mean it was a sight to behold!
 
Once all the fanfare was finally over, we walked out and loaded up the van.  As we were driving away, the Director of the Orphanage was crying.  She looked so very sad to see him leave!
It was heartbreaking.
 
He is a wonderfully sweet little child, especially for one so very pampered.  Time will tell what sort of challenges we will face, but today was a special day for him and I am grateful that he was loved so much.  The Chinese culture approaches "parenting" in a very different way than most Americans, but in their way, they were showering him with affection. 
 
I pray that each of our sons will feel just as loved and treasured by us as Cooper did today.
 
Thanks to all the people who have been faithfully praying for our family during this time. 
It is making a difference and we are most appreciative!